minor·forces

As a culture, why do we insist on packaging so much crap in with the things that we actually want to attain. i see this phenomonon everywhere. Here are some prime examples. you get a toy in a box of cereal (we didn’t buy the box for the toy we bought it for the cereal, SO WHY ARE WE GETTING A TOY). software is running more rampant with this than anywhere else, you buy an OS (take XP for example) and you get a fucking IM program built in that you can’t easily uninstall, and a video conferencing software, and a web browser, and a basic word proccessor, etc etc etc. i could go on with other examples forever, but i won’t because i have a specific one i am getting too.

the main point of this ramble is not about material goods, but in fact about our own human relationships. now for most of us our goal is to find someone who we could stay with in a permenent relationship. however, almost none of us can accomplish this task by following a straight trajectory. no, we all have to play the FUCKING GAMES!!!! I FUCKING HATE GAMES!!! someone decided so long ago that playing games like dating was a good idea. i think dating is a terrible idea.

let me just be clear i am not opposed to the act of going out on a date, i think that is a fine way to spend time with someone you care about. what i am opposing is the “dating scene” as in the process by which we loacte the person we enjoy going on dates with.

think about what dating means at its core for a minute. basically it means that we are taking a shotgun approach. we see someone we think we might like and we ask them out (a whole slew of other games comes into play like flirting and playing hard to get, but i am not going to go into those at this point in time) and then if that person has contradicting beliefs or ideas then we break up and find someone new. this is such a scatterbrained approach it is ammazing our species is still surviving. or on the flipside, the other person isn’t working out but you are so scared you won’t find someone new you stick by them through all the shit that comes up. that is just double stupid.

what we really need to do is to focus our efforts. we need to develope a better system, or at the very least slow the whole process down. i don’t know what that new process is (i had some ideas but upon re-reading them i realized i was just describing a slowed down version of dating, which is of course what i am protesting.

I think too many people keep separate in their minds their friends from prosective loved ones. this is my main point you know the clique of friends you hang out with and do things with. you probably know them better than most other people, and you obviously have something in common with them. so don’t be so quick to dismiss them as someone you could have a relationship with.

I’m sorry i rambled incoherently for so long, relationships just confuse the heck out of me and i had to get this off my chest. maby you can glean at least something of use from my musings.